Dating and Mating in a Techno-Driven World

Understanding How Technology Is Helping and Hurting Relationships

by Rachel Hoffman


Through the use of technology, online dating sites, and social media, the opportunities for finding a partner are exponentially greater than in past eras. So why does it seem harder now to establish relationships than before?

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January 2018


Pages 189
Volumes 1
Size 6 1/8x9 1/4
Topics Current Events and Issues/Society

Authored by a sex therapist who regularly works with clients who are attempting to navigate the dating world or improve their relationships, this book explains how technology plays a role in creating conflict or additional anxiety and discloses techniques to help individuals gain confidence or strengthen their personal relationships.

The statistics are telling: 85 percent of all adults use the Internet; 88 percent use email; 91 percent own cell phones; 56 percent own smartphones; 73 percent send and receive text messages; and 67 percent use social networking sites. The advent of personal communication devices and ubiquitous connectivity has dramatically shifted the way we communicate, and as a result, the way we date and pursue relationships has changed. The share of 18- to 24-year-olds who use online dating has roughly tripled from 10 percent in 2013 to 27 percent today. Modern dating techniques and technology-enabled interpersonal communication have resulted in very distinct emotional side effects.

Dating and Mating in a Techno-Driven World explores dating in our 21st-century world with a unique approach, providing understandable information for anyone who is dating or seeking a long-term relationship while also serving as a clinical guide for therapists who want to learn how to treat individuals and especially couples presenting with some sort of issue related to technology. Instead of simply offering an analysis of the trends that are occurring, author Rachel Hoffman addresses the interpersonal problems and conflicts that result from digital or remote communication and "courting" and explains how to treat them. The topics addressed include utilizing dating apps, the effects of social media on relationships, and how technology can be distracting in relationships. Each chapter of the book supplies a case study or vignette, an analysis of the situation, research findings related to the topic, and clinical information that identifies the implications for therapists working with individuals or couples with a similar experience.


  • Suggests numerous treatment methods to help those presenting with issues related to technology
  • Validates many of the breadth of emotions that accompany the experience of casual dating
  • Offers clear and insightful information that will enable readers to understand why certain patterns happen to them during dating
  • Presents tools and advice on how to better navigate the complicated dating world
  • Provides insight into sex and tech products that can be helpful in long-distance relationships
Author Info

Rachel Hoffman, LCSW, is a therapist at the Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy. She is earning her doctoral degree in human sexuality from Widener University, Chester, PA. She is a member of both NASW and AASECT. She is a founder of the website SexandTech, which highlights various companies in the sex and tech world. Her therapy website is

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